Experiences of husbands of female pastors- navigating gender roles and communication dynamics in marital relationships

Abstract

This study explored the experiences of husbands of female pastors/priests, focusing on navigating gender roles and communication dynamics in marital relationships. Motivated by the growing number of women entering into pastoral ministry and the limited research on their spouses’ experience, the study aimed to address a significant gap in literature. Using social role theory and communication adaptation theory, the research examined these husbands' communication patterns and gender role negotiation. Employing a phenomenological approach, data were gathered from five husbands using purposive sampling and semi-structured interviews, and they were thematically analysed. The findings revealed that communication in these marriages is characterised by openness, transparency, connection, intimacy, and partnership. Such dynamics enhance emotional bonding and marital contentment, with husbands using these communication methods to support and strengthen their relationships with their pastor wives. Additionally, husbands provide support in their wives' pastoral journeys by contributing financially, attending church activities, and sharing household tasks, emphasising the need for reciprocal assistance in achieving a harmonious marriage. The study highlighted that husbands ensure equal opportunities for self-expression, fostering mutual respect and understanding. They adapt to new situations and make compromises to maintain marital satisfaction. According to the research, husbands of female pastors develop coping mechanisms, such as effective communication, support networks, and counselling, to navigate the complexities arising from their wives' pastoral roles and unique challenges. The study concluded that communication dynamics in marriages are centred on partnership, intimacy, and transparency, strengthening the bond between spouses and promoting conflict resolution. Husbands of female pastors play a significant role in supporting their wives' pastoral duties, contributing to church activities, and managing household tasks, highlighting the importance of effective communication and mutual respect. The findings have practical implications for churches, counsellors, and support networks in developing programs and policies that enhance the well-being of pastoral couples and encourage more inclusive and supportive marital dynamics in ministry contexts